Principal’s Pointers 4.21.17
This month’s Developmental Assets focuses on Peaceful Conflict Resolution. Research shows that young people who resolve conflicts peacefully do better in school. It’s normal for anyone to feel mad every now and then, but learning to keep cool helps people express anger more effectively.
Working it Out
Whether it’s a spat between siblings over who should take out the trash or an argument between businesses over natural resources, disagreements are a part of being human. But no matter how small or large, every dispute can be resolved peacefully if both sides are willing to listen and compromise. Encourage your child to talk it out—and truly listen to one another. Speaking and listening respectfully are key.
Tips for building this asset
When you notice two children arguing, ask them to stop and take a deep breath. Once they’re calmer, ask them to think about why they are mad before they start talking. Being calm helps to focus on the problem at hand and not on attacking the other person. Suggest they talk about problems before the problems get too big. This can help keep everyone from blowing things out of proportion.
Also try this:
In your home and family: Talk with your child about a conflict you had as a young person. Discuss how you handled the situation then and how you might approach it now.
In your neighborhood and community: Model peaceful conflict resolution in your own life. Remember, when you argue in public, whether it’s in a grocery store or on a bus, there’s a good chance young people are listening. What do you want them to hear?
Proud to be your principal,
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